What constitutes failure?

Failure….lack of success(thesaurus.com), we have all experienced this at one point or another in our lives. For some it may be everyday due to addictions or personal struggles. But true failure is the willingness to give up. Everyone has struggles and may not conquer with a victory every time but this will ultimately makes us stronger. If we turn to giving up, we are no longer fighting and wasting away in a world that was meant to be beautiful and happy.
As for my personal struggle, it has been my eating disorder addictions. For four months, I was able to completely abstain from this form of behavior but finally cracked due to stress and overwhelming emotion. It has always been the easiest thing to turn to. But what is the underlying reason? Being overly emotional? lack of self control? Perhaps both.
As masters of our own lives, we crave control in order to function>> how we feel, what we do, what happens daily, etc. But that is a false expectation on how life really is. Yes, there are some things that we can control, like how much food we eat, whether or not we exercise, what we think about, TV we are wiling to watch, what we read, etc….. but unexpected things will happen no matter how hard we try to control our lives. When this happens, how are we going to handle it?
There is a better alternative in handling these circumstances. Instead of when being stressed, turning to food or abstaining from food entirely, which only leads to harming ourselves… we need to find constructive ways to cope. Maybe we can go for a walk… call a friend.. or take a bubble bath… anything besides harming ourselves. Because in the end what do we get? More self loathing, feelings of non control, and nothing but negativity consumes us.
Now, none of us are perfect.. these things will not work every time. As long as we are still trying we are not failing. 😘

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